“Instead, they eventually cause resentment, which is relationship kryptonite.” Plus, when you’re mad, there’s a good chance your partner can tell, and denying it will likely annoy them more than just fessing up to what’s actually wrong.
“When a man consciously disposes of the condom and the wrapper (which often gets broken into two pieces), it tells the woman he respects her, but also that he respects himself and the space around him,” explains Lauren Brim, a sexual wellness and alternative relationship coach.
Some people really want to talk things out, while others would rather just let a conflict cool off before digging into it.
But up and leaving an argument right in the middle? Some people tend to revert to their childhood tendencies around family, which can create relationship pet peeves for their S. “When you see your grown partner revert back to a 12-year-old, it can be infuriating,” Concepcion says.
(We’re only human, after all.) But if you take steps to recognize these biggest pet peeves early on—and even discuss them with your partner—you’re all but guaranteed to stave off some larger issues and confrontations down the road.
“It’s very difficult to develop intimacy with someone who has exes as friends,” says April Masini, a New York-based relationship and etiquette expert.
“The silent treatment just delays resolution of a fight and closes the lines of communication.
Neither are healthy for a relationship.” It’s pretty annoying when your S. heads to the kitchen to grab a snack and doesn’t ask if you want anything.
“Always acquiescing to the wants or desires of your partner demonstrates a lack of personality or individual opinion,” Colby Marie Z explains.
“Newness and novelty increase intimacy and closeness, so add some interest to your relationship by contributing your unique perspective and thoughts when it comes to decisions.” Oh, and “not knowing how to put the dishes in the dishwasher or where the washing machine and dryer are located in the house” is not an excuse, according to Lisa Helfend Meyer, Certified Specialist in Family Law and founding partner of Los Angeles-based Meyer, Olson, Lowy & Meyers.