If that’s the case, online dating is probably a challenge for you. On a dating site, you don’t have to look someone in the eye and tell them to take a hike. The silence gets your message across without the guilt-ridden task of telling the person why you aren’t interested. That’s the harsh reality of online dating, and the rejection can feel soul-crushing when it happens to you.
Your eyes can’t do the talking; you have to up your chatting game before someone will agree to go out with you. Just remember, it’s only easy to reject you because they don’t know you.
I know we were taught as kids that everyone is special and all, but after a dozen or so profiles declare themselves “addicted to Netflix” or “looking for something real,” you begin to wonder just how original people are.
Maybe we should all just agree that “Game of Thrones” is great and take it as a given that random dating profile #394 has watched and loved the show (but probably not read the books).
Sometimes you meet up and the chemistry isn’t there, and you can’t do anything but count the minutes until the date is over.
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been chatting online; you never really know if you’re going to hit it off with someone until you meet in person. Maybe exposition was never your strong suit, and you’re more a physical being.
I’ve tried mixing up my bait, putting out multiple lines in multiple spots, and telling myself it’s only a matter of time. In my entire life of failed fishing trips, I’ve never hooked anything but a tree branch. It can be frustrating, and you don’t always know what (if anything) you’re doing wrong.
People act like it’s a matter of tactics and timing, but often it’s a matter of luck and patience.
The fact that you’re here means you’re on your way to sucking less.
I sit on the boat, cast my line, and wonder why I even bother.
I can never tell how many fish are even in that murky water, but, judging by my lack of success, I’m thinking not that many.
You can’t sign up for a dating site and expect some fairy-godmother-like matching game to bring your soulmate to your inbox.
Dating websites are a platform designed to make it easier to find a date — but you still have to, you know, do stuff and be good at it.