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We received many thoughtful inquiries that touched on a wide range of topics.
“Then let it go and let faith take over; believe that the universe will do its part in bringing you to who you are supposed to meet.” Last spring, Barbara Allen and Dave Prochniak bought a marriage license.
“It’s a societal misnomer that people stop wanting to find love and give up having sex at a certain age,” said Amie Clark, founder of The Senior List, a consumer site that regularly publishes stories about online dating for its midlife readers.This story is another in our six-part series called “Dating After 50” and we will be featuring more pieces on subjects relative to dating and relationships throughout the summer. Barbara Allen had been on the site for two years, an experience that had prompted her to pare down her profile.After six months of coffee dates with women he met through an online dating site, Dave Prochniak was ready to give up. I thought, the hell with it, I’ll just be single and work on my garden,” said Prochniak, 55. “I’d been a stay-at-home mom and I saw how that freaked guys out so I disappeared for a while, then turned my profile back on to try again,” said Allen, 55. Paul, Minn., texted, then talked, and then Prochniak invited Allen to meet him at a coffee shop where he was hanging canvases for a show of his paintings.The chemistry between the pair, both of whom had been divorced, was immediate.“I walked her to her mom-minivan and gave her a hug,” Prochniak recalled. Stories like that are not unusual, but for every midlife encounter that hits, there are a near-infinite number of disappointing, unfulfilling or just plain weird dates that miss.