Note that for the sake of this text, I use nerd and geek interchangeably.If you are highly intellectual, socially awkward person, you are likely to benefit from this blog post series.It is a soft, opinionated and personal matter, inadvertently revealing my secrets and vulnerabilities. But I see the profound change from something being frustrating to a field where I feel well.And I would like to share some lessons I’ve learned in the process, often the hard way.So, this text is not about: While I use the word nerd a lot, it’s not about self-identification (here is a very stereotypical case in White & Nerdy by “Weird Al” Yankovic).
Nerds have special needs, special skills and things which may work differently (honesty, emotions, touch, spontaneity, expectations of partners) - general advice rarely cuts it.But, well, I actually want to help people, so it is wiser to think about a wider (not-empty! A lot of this content might be useful for other groups (gender, sexual orientation, level of nerdiness). By putting in some conscious effort you will get ahead of most men!A large portion of this information is on approaching people in general, or advancing any relationship - surprisingly many things I learnt from dating are crucial for my networking skills (which, as a semi-freelancer, I use a lot).Just reading this blog post beyond the 140 character baseline is a good indicator that you may like its content. In short, nerds are typically defined as having a combination of intelligence, obsession and social awkwardness (as covered in this classic Venn diagram).If you really want to dive into this topic: Social life may not be fun, especially during childhood and adolescence - with severity ranging from being an outsider to being totally excluded or actively bullied.