Participants were also asked how much they wanted to get back together with their ex, which researchers called "desire reunification," and how likely they were to date again, which researchers called "reunification likelihood."The researchers found those who felt more attached to their partners -- in other words, who had higher levels of investment, commitment and satisfaction -- during the relationship were the ones who were most likely to still be close with their exes after the relationship ended.
Exes who valued their relationship partner as a platonic companion didn't want to lose that friendship connection just because the romantic connection was over.
Lots of people have told me unequivocally that they would never date a friend's ex.
They wholeheartedly believe that it's wrong, disrespectful, and if a friend did that to them, they'd never talk to that person again.
Sure, there will still be a friendship there regardless of whether or not the intentions are the same, but you'll both endure years of being "friends" while having completely different definitions of the word.
All of these factors were combined into a total post-breakup "closeness" score.
Researchers also found those who had high levels of desire reunification and reunification likelihood were most likely to still be close with their exes, which makes sense: If you want to date again in the future, it helps to not completely cut your ex out of your life.
So, it's apparently true that a number of circumstances determine your likelihood of being friends with your ex after a breakup.
What if you both have different intentions for the friendship?
What if you'resticking around for the benefits of your ex's wonderful companionship and attention while your ex hopes to relight the fire one day?