Dating a single mother advice

She'll tell you what's up when it comes to her kid and how being a mom intersects with dating.Although, that said, the best assumption to leave at the door is the one about how all moms want to talk about their kids all the time.Especially in the early days of dating, talk to her about anything and everything else, just like you would anyone else, and let her show you how much she does (or doesn't) want her mom life to be a part of her dating life.This is good advice when dating anyone who is a human and, like humans do, sometimes needs to cancel or reschedule or is 10 minutes late.Yes, some friends get priority, and family generally takes the top spot (behind yourself of course), but all of that shifts when you have a kid.Suddenly, their needs almost always come behind yours (OK, sometimes before yours, too) but ahead of everyone else.Ultimately, all of the items on this list can be checked off if you just stop thinking of us as "single moms" and starting thinking of us as "women with whom you'll do all the things you know you should've been doing with everyone you date anyway." Seriously, which thing on this list isn't just reflective of healthy dating habits?The biggest difference between single moms and any other woman you might date is that the presence of a kid in her life means having strong boundaries is a non-negotiable.

Don't freak out, especially if it's just to show us that you take the responsibilities of parenthood seriously.This doesn't mean that the single mom you're dating doesn't care about your needs.I mean, don't ever date anyone who uses any part of their life to nullify their obligation to consider you.The idea that all single moms are dating with the exclusive goal of finding someone to marry us and alleviate some of the parenting burden and keep our kids from growing up in a Broken Home™ (*insert overly dramatic anguish face here*) is offensive, in addition to being laughably wrong in so many cases.Single moms date for as many different reasons as people without kids, and are as likely or unlikely to be open to a serious relationship as anyone else.

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