I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy.I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list.
I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.
His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.
For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue.
However, once I put God in charge of my love life, a funny thing happened.
I began to see in Matt several of those “husband material traits” that I had been searching for with other guys.