The people willing to actually hold me accountable in dating have been my best friends.
I’ve had lots of friends over the years, but the ones who have been willing to press in, ask harder questions, and offer unwanted (but wise) counsel are the friends I respect and prize the most.
They stepped in when I was spending too much time with a girlfriend or started neglecting other important areas of my life.
They raised a flag when a relationship seemed unhealthy.
Fight the impulse to date in a corner by yourselves, and instead draw one another into those important relationships.
And I wish I would have listened to them more in dating.The scary reality is that we can find an answer somewhere to justify what we want to do — right or wrong, safe or unsafe, wise or unwise.The advice we choose might be from a book by a doctor, or a random conversation with someone at church, or a blog post by a teenager, or just something we found on Pinterest.Only people who love Christ more than they love you will have the courage to tell you that you’re wrong in dating — wrong about a person, wrong about timing, wrong about whatever.Only they will be willing to say something hard, even when you’re so happily infatuated.